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vowsQuestion: How do I know if I am ready to consider marriage?

Answer: Here are some questions you need to consider regarding your motives, level of maturity, and prospective spouse.

If you can answer these affirmatively, then it would seem that you are indeed ready to consider marriage.

1. Do you feel alone and incomplete as a single? (Genesis 2:18 / Matthew 19:4-6)

2. Has it become obvious that you do not have the gift of singleness?  (1 Corinthians 7:1-2, 9)

3. Have you rejected all singleness-related-pseudo-spiritual heresies?  (1 Timothy 4:1-5 / Colossians 2:20-23)

4. Are you seeking first the advancement of the Kingdom of God?  (Malachi 2:15 / Matthew 6:33-34)

5. Do you realize that the desire for marriage and sex is good?  (Hebrews 13:4 / Proverbs 5:18-19)

6. Are you committed to remain sexually pure before marriage?  (Songs 8:4 / 1 Thessalonians 4:1-3)

7. Are you ready and willing to have children?  (Genesis 1:28, 9:1 / Psalm 127:3-5)

8. Are you able with sound judgment to give your consent?  (1 Corinthians 7:36-38 / Genesis 24:57-58)

9. Is your prospective spouse a born again/baptized Christian?  (1 Corinthians 7:39 / 2 Corinthians 6:14)

10. Does you prospective spouse abhor idolatry and heresy?  (Deuteronomy 7:3-4 / Nehemiah 13:25-27)

11. Do you realize that physical beauty is fleeting and deceptive?  (Proverbs 31:30 / 1 Peter 3:3-4)

12. Is your prospective spouse sufficiently unrelated to you?  (Leviticus 20:19-21 / 1 Corinthians 5:1)

13. Are you honoring your parents in this decision?  (Exodus 20:12 / Genesis 24:1-67)

14. Have you sought the safety which comes through counselors?  (Proverbs 11:14, 15:22, 18:1)

15. Are you ready to make an ‘until death do we part’ commitment?  (Malachi 2:15-16 / Mark 10:2-12)

Answered by Pastor McShaffrey